I used to be one of those people who couldn't function without people around me or being on the phone or basically feeling "connected" all of the time. THEN…I had kids, and those alone times seemed more coveted. I think as your life evolves, so do your needs. When the boys became young adults, we loved spending time at their activities because keeping connected to them was a priority. This is God's way of preparing us for the empty nest. Take time now to connect with your spouse, so you don't end up looking at each other like strangers. If you are a young couple (I know you are reading!!:), it is worth the price of the babysitter to go have a coffee or experience a movie theater again. There are even options if it is a money issue! Do a trade with a friend or simply map it into your monthly budget. Take those moments to look forward to what to wear, and where to go. Bluntly put…put on some make-up ladies and get out of the sweats. Men, grow a pair, and plan something yourself. The best gift for many of us women, is not to have to think or plan everything, even if it is simple. SURPRISE US!
This leads me to my dilemma. We were actually good about date nights. It was the in-between things that we never took into consideration. "You take____ and I will take____ and we will meet back up for dinner" was a common parenting strategy. Another thing we got really good at was "doing our own thing". I had choir, he had golf. I had ladies bible study, he had men's. I worked out during the day, he in the morning. Now that we are "home alone" quite a bit, it dawned on me: Let's do something TOGETHER! Yes…for me it was THAT SIMPLE. Of course, we still need our time alone and with our friends, but making a dual, regular activity has become a priority. CT Dad suggested I start to enjoy the fine art of car maintenance. I suggested he learn to decorate. We are not off to a great start, but these things take time. This week I saw, "RUSH" at the theater. That may be the closest I get to working on a car in this life. In the meantime, I have set up a desk in the garage next to his workbench for projects and painting, so our Saturdays can be spent doing our own thing while listening to music we both like or the Buffs on the radio (GO CU!)… I think a wine tour is calling our name in the future. What do you enjoy with your spouse or your friends?? Share your thoughts on Facebook this week!
Cheers!
Coffee Talk Mom
As you can see, one of our favorite things to do together is "Gourmet Group"…This beautiful photo was taken on 80's night…I know, I know…we're hot! (nice mullet CT Dad!)
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